Psst. I am now writing naked.

This is scary.

I can’t believe I’m actually doing this.

After spending a year and a half on my old blog, working hard on it, gaining Twitter followers, making Facebook friends … I’m leaving it all and starting from scratch.

Why?

Because though I love my old blog, too many people I know in real life knew about it.
And that fact held me back. It edited me. It stifled my creativity.

Too many people were coming up to me and commenting on what I wrote. And you may be thinking – well, DUH. Isn’t that what you wanted – people reading your blog and talking about it?

I thought so. But as it turned out – not so much. At least not some people.

I am fine if my friends know about my issues with my kids’ sleeping and behavior. My discomfort with my body. My dad’s untimely death. My questions about religion. Funny things my kids say and regrettable things I do. I love sharing and hearing other peoples’ stories. It’s why I love blogging.

But when friends of friends comment to me about my posts? Or worse, people I don’t really like? Or even worse worse, when people comment to my intensely private husband about my posts and made him squirm uncomfortably?

I just wasn’t ok with it.

I felt awful about making Hubs uncomfortable. And I worried that my writing would negatively affect my kids’ lives. What if Anne’s friend’s mom didn’t like what I wrote and wouldn’t let my kid play with her kid?

And I felt censored. I wanted to join Write on Edge and write memoir posts. I wanted to write about how I may seem “cute” and “normal” but how I struggle with bouts of depression and how I handle it. And I wanted to write about the sweet, funny, adorable things my kids do or my husband does – without embarrassing any of them.

It was time for a change. It was time to strip down. It was time to be naked.

“Dare to be naked before your readers. Because that is writing, and everything else is worthless crap.” *

YES.

So here I am.

I am Honest Mom, and this is my new blog.

Join me, won’t you?

It’s gonna be an adventure worth taking.

*From Billy Coffey’s blog, which I discovered through this blog.

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54 Replies to “Psst. I am now writing naked.”

  1. I’m your first commenter! I’m so glad you’re doing this. I find my blog so cathartic. A ton of people I know “in real life” read it but I’m just honest anyway. Would I be honest-er if no one knew? Yup. Then I could write more personal and intimate things about my own struggles with depression, weight, my marriage, etc. So I’m excited for you and excited to read and comment here. Congrats on the new blog. I am figuratively breaking a bottle of champagne on its bow.

    1. Yay! Thanks, Allison! You know, of course, that you are one of the fabulous moms who inspired me to make the change. You’ve been so supportive and wonderful. Thanks for making me laugh my ass off on a daily basis.

  2. I’m jealous. Might just have to start guest blogging here and with the other cool kids so I can write what I really want to say.

  3. Every human being I’ve ever had the fortune (or misfortune) of knowing is aware that I’m writing my blog. Which gets its roots in my researching a boob job. And the word ‘tits’ is even in my title. That took a big pair for me to put out there in the first place. I told everyone I knew in the hopes of increasing readership as early as I could. But the funny thing is … the people with the most insight, the ones who check in the most and I most look forward to hearing from … are my new, anonymous friends, many of whom are fellow bloggers. I have definitely pulled back from my ‘titsy’ handle since I first launched and have yet to use every word I know in my own blog.

    So, can I please come over to your place when I feel the need to scream “Fuck” at the top of my lungs?

    (Why are all of your friends staring at me?)

    Love your new digs. Awesome. Jealous. Proud. Even though I have no idea who the fuck you are. Oops, sorry. New habit.

    1. Oh my lord, you make me sniggle. That’s snort + giggle.
      And you said “boob.” Heh heh.
      It’s all about the honesty. And if that means an f-bomb on occasion – well, then there it is.
      Thanks for the support. Blog friends can be real friends – isn’t it cool how that works out?

  4. *** creeps back in sheepishly *** Um, I’m leaving a second comment so I have the opportunity to click ‘notify me of follow-up comments via email. Sorry to bother you again. Carry on with your gossip about the new girl with the filthy mouth. *** trips on way out then darts out the back door, slamming purse strap in door ***

  5. Brava! It’s great to see you here, writing for you (and, as happens when you’re honest, for others whether you mean to or no). I can’t wait to be a part of your journey!

    Honest,

    Nicole

  6. Hey JD, am totally digging the new blog, I’m right there with you. I wish I could post more honestly on my mummy blog, but most of my few readers are actually some of the people who let me down most. I’m having a pretty sucky time with the mum-friends thing. My internet friends are much nicer. So here’s to honest blogging!

  7. This is great! I look forward to seeing the surprising details that will emerge! (insert evil laugh). In all seriousness, congrats on the new blog and I’m looking forward to reading.

  8. Just coming over to say hi & welcome to Write on Edge 🙂 I know what you mean about wanting a place to write “naked.” And my hubs is also a pretty private guy. I censor a little 🙂

  9. I totally get that & often wonder the same thing. I’m new to the blogging world- but I can see this being an issue. Thanks for the post!

  10. coming from a small, not even a town, rural community, i can relate. i have only been blogging for about a year and am excited about each and every reader, but i do worry about hurting feelings of those i love. and my mother-in-law reads my blog – i can tell she is a tad bit miffed each time i complain about her son.

    loved reading your posts here. i’m a new follower.
    mer

  11. Just came across your “new” blogpage and I am excited for you. I, too, decided to start up a new blog on a topic, that well, I just wasn’t ready to share with the people I know. I love what you’ve written and can’t wait to read more!

    1. Hi Jenn! Thanks for the comment. I checked out your blog and find it fascinating, as I am at that “trying to decide to reconnect phase.” I’m looking forward to reading more about your journey. PS – I tried to comment on your blog and couldn’t…?

  12. Wow. You are woman, hear you roar! I think it takes A LOT of guts to start over. Hope it allows you to be everything you want to be. Have read the first part of your memoir, so it seems like it is working out. It’s a benefit to us all that your talent is “naked” now.

  13. Hmmm…. really interesting post. I just started my blog a few weeks ago (after having dabbled here and there in blogging for the last few years). Anyway, I’m sort of figuring it out as I go along. And I’ve had really great guidance — particularly from Kim @LetMeStartBySaying. But I really like your take on this. I sort of wish I had thought of this approach before I told my family and friends about it (granted, only a few of them are following me). But I can totally see what you mean about it holding you back. Anyway, all that being said, I really enjoy your blog… very much! As the name of your blog suggests, you are just a real mom who deals with real issues and isn’t afraid to talk about it. Anyway, thanks for the great food for thought!

  14. Wow. I totally get it…all of it. Which you already know because you left me such sweet and supportive comments when I went through my “coming out” conundrum last month. It sure is a pickle…that primal need to write without fear. I know it must have hurt to start over, but it sounds like it was the right choice for you and I’m happy to be along for the ride!

  15. I totally get where you’re coming from and I salute you. I’ve only just started my blog and I feel the same way. BUT I am finding that my blog is a great tool to be able to show my flaws to the world, show my crap. I guess it is forcing me to accept myself and stop this human-thing we do – this pretense of a perfect life. I’ll follow you, for sure. Looking forward to reading what you have to say. Feel free to have a look at me too – I’ll show you mine if you show me yours? haha
    http://wp.me/p2uEVw-4b
    Have a happy Monday and best of luck!

  16. I know exactly how you feel and wish I had never told certain “people” about my website/blog. That’s one of the main reasons that I don’t update it as often as I would like, I feel like I have to always watch what I write just in case it’s taken the wrong way. I can’t be as open and honest as I would like about my personal life so I have no choice other than to just write about the usual kind of stuff which gets pretty boring, I wish I had come across your blog earlier! Congratulations on doing this!

  17. You. Are. Awesome! I don’t even know how I found your site, but I can’t wait to devour it! I wish more mamas I knew were willing to be so HONEST! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

  18. I’m really glad you decided to “write naked” since there’s a few of honest writers out there . I really needed to read this since I’m a mom with dealing with depression my self so Thanks for posts! 🙂

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