Are you going to achieve your goals this year? Or will you give up?

how to achieve your goals for the year

For someone who says she doesn’t make New Year’s resolutions, I sure do make a lot of them.

Two years ago, I resolved to do what it takes to be happy – easier said than done for me. Last year, I made a belated resolution to choose to think kindly of others. I’m still working on the “be happy” resolution, but making an active decision to think the best of people has been going pretty well – and feels pretty good, too.

This year I’ve decided that I’m not making “resolutions” as much as I’m making “goals” for the year. Goals sound more like things I can list out and cross off – a favorite hobby of mine. And I was thinking about how writing my past resolutions on my blog really held me accountable to them. Announcing resolutions to the world shames you into achieving them, I think. And don’t we all need a little more shaming in our lives? No? Okay then, maybe it’s … accountability that we need.

So I was thinking – What if I listed out my goals here, and you told me one or more of yours in the comments? By telling the world about your goals (well, the world of Honest Mom), maybe you’ll feel more bound to them. Then next week when you think, “Eh, maybe I could just play on Facebook tonight instead of writing a chapter of my book / going to the gym / starting to organize the basement,” you’ll think instead, “CRAP! I proclaimed my goals to the interwebz and I’ll feel dumb if I don’t work on them!”

See? Shaming! It works!

Of course, there’s a huge chance that no one will write anything in the comments and I’ll feel really dumb for proposing this. Lord knows Facebook isn’t helping matters by showing my posts to 400 of my 11,300 fans (which is why you should subscribe to Honest Mom blog posts, hint, hint). But those of you who do see this, I’d love if you’d tell me one or more of your goals. Early next month we can check in with each other in another blog post. Sound good?

Okay, here goes. My goals for 2015 include:

1. Start a new weekly series on Honest Mom that features you guys. I’ve asked before, and many of you said that you want to share your stories of parenting and mental health. Soon I’ll be officially asking for your essay submissions, with the goal of publishing one story each week!

2. Combine my copywriting career and my social media skills. I did one social media management project last year, and just found out that I landed another one that involves blogging, too! Wahoo! Also, this goal includes making Honest Mom part of my job and devoting work time to it, and not just trying to fit the blog in wherever and whenever I can.

3. Clean and organize my home office. It’s scary in here. Help! I’m being overtaken by disorganization!

4. Choose to be more patient and present with my kids. This will obviously be a continuous and ongoing goal, like last year’s. I already failed at this goal this morning. Sigh.

5. Exercise once a week. I know this sounds like so little, but I do almost nothing right now. I need to practice what I preach and eat well, sleep more, and exercise.

So there you go. My goals. Feel free to badger me about them. It’ll keep me honest.

Please tell me in the comments about one or more of your goals. What are you hoping to achieve this year? Let’s hold each other accountable so we don’t give up!

PS – Did you know that I have a private Facebook group for moms? It’s for parenting and mental health support. It’s not a place for serious therapy, but it IS a place for advice, commiseration, laughs, and kindness.

If you’re interested in joining, friend me and then message me, and I will add you. (We have to be FB friends for me to add you to a secret group. You can unfriend me after you’re in the group if you want. I totally understand if you like only having FB friends you know in real life, and won’t be offended at all!)

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22 Replies to “Are you going to achieve your goals this year? Or will you give up?”

  1. I like this a lot. I’m in your FB group but since deactivating FB I’ve missed it. Resorting to Twitter!!

    Your #4 and #5 are two of mine as well. So that’ll be easy to remember.

    I also have a goal of reading 10-12 books in 2015. Before kids I was an avid (1-2 books a week) reader. In 2014 I only read one. I’m using the Goodreads app to keep track.

    My fourth is to learn to knit. I’ve just always wanted to.

    Number 5 is to write more blog posts. I was off to a good start but lapsed over the holidays.

    Here’s to hoping we can cross some off by December!

  2. Lose 10 more pounds to get back to where I was last year and really get my beachbody coaching business going so I can support my family in a fun job!

  3. My goals:

    – To get to the gym 3x a week for fitness and fun and feeling good. Pounds will work themselves off as they may.

    – To be published in the NYT

    – To complete one of two fiction novels

    – To get my children’s book published.

    OK, that’s a start. 🙂

  4. I should SO pledge your #4 – this morning when my kids interrupted me while I was working (AGAIN) I told them to go ahead and talk, but I kept typing. I felt awful later – when I tell them they have my attention, I should totally give it to them. So, THAT, plus I'm setting weight loss goals starting at 10 lbs that I "need" to lose, and if that works I'll move on to my 10 vanity pounds.

  5. Great goals! I never have been a resolution setter, but I like having goals. Since I started blogging, I've done a word for the year. This year I plan to focus on that word more than I did last year.

    Here's to you getting your goals achieved! 🙂

  6. Goal #1 – yell at my kids less. Period. Letting the little stuff go for real this time.
    Goal #2 – join a Zumba class and f-ing stick with it till I get some results.

  7. Goal #1 – yell at my kids less. Period. Letting the little stuff go for real this time.
    Goal #2 – join a Zumba class and f-ing stick with it till I get some results.

  8. I’m setting just a general ‘get my sh*t together’ goal, starting with: Get a daily planner vs the 5 random spiral notebooks I have going, finally redeem my purse full of gift cards and to deliver the thank you notes my daughter wrote the week after her birthday….in July.

  9. My goal is a healthy me in all areas. I want to work on getting to bed earlier, exercising 3x/wk, eating in a way that makes my body feel good and taking care of all of my health issues in a timely manner.

  10. My big goal this year is to stop using the “bitch voice” with my husband. You know the one…you say “how was your day dear” and it sounds like “go suck on an egg.”

    I love the idea of opening your blog. I bet you would get some amazing stories.

  11. Yes to #4! That’s a big one for me this year. To date, I’ve been mildly successful, but acknowledging the problem is half the battle, right? How are your goals going so far?

  12. Oh, I have so many, I don’t know where to begin. But a few are crucial so I’ll start here.

    1. Be more patient with my children, realizing that part of the reason I lose it is because I bend over backwards for them and then become furious when (I feel) they take advantage of me.

    2. Get off FB. I’m not really writing or advancing my FB profile when I’m trolling FB for hours a day.

    3. Go to bed at a reasonable hour. 1 am consistently is all wrong.

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