For someone who says she doesn’t make New Year’s resolutions, I sure do make a lot of them.
Two years ago, I resolved to do what it takes to be happy – easier said than done for me. Last year, I made a belated resolution to choose to think kindly of others. I’m still working on the “be happy” resolution, but making an active decision to think the best of people has been going pretty well – and feels pretty good, too.
This year I’ve decided that I’m not making “resolutions” as much as I’m making “goals” for the year. Goals sound more like things I can list out and cross off – a favorite hobby of mine. And I was thinking about how writing my past resolutions on my blog really held me accountable to them. Announcing resolutions to the world shames you into achieving them, I think. And don’t we all need a little more shaming in our lives? No? Okay then, maybe it’s … accountability that we need.
So I was thinking – What if I listed out my goals here, and you told me one or more of yours in the comments? By telling the world about your goals (well, the world of Honest Mom), maybe you’ll feel more bound to them. Then next week when you think, “Eh, maybe I could just play on Facebook tonight instead of writing a chapter of my book / going to the gym / starting to organize the basement,” you’ll think instead, “CRAP! I proclaimed my goals to the interwebz and I’ll feel dumb if I don’t work on them!”
See? Shaming! It works!
Of course, there’s a huge chance that no one will write anything in the comments and I’ll feel really dumb for proposing this. Lord knows Facebook isn’t helping matters by showing my posts to 400 of my 11,300 fans (which is why you should subscribe to Honest Mom blog posts, hint, hint). But those of you who do see this, I’d love if you’d tell me one or more of your goals. Early next month we can check in with each other in another blog post. Sound good?
Okay, here goes. My goals for 2015 include:
1. Start a new weekly series on Honest Mom that features you guys. I’ve asked before, and many of you said that you want to share your stories of parenting and mental health. Soon I’ll be officially asking for your essay submissions, with the goal of publishing one story each week!
2. Combine my copywriting career and my social media skills. I did one social media management project last year, and just found out that I landed another one that involves blogging, too! Wahoo! Also, this goal includes making Honest Mom part of my job and devoting work time to it, and not just trying to fit the blog in wherever and whenever I can.
3. Clean and organize my home office. It’s scary in here. Help! I’m being overtaken by disorganization!
4. Choose to be more patient and present with my kids. This will obviously be a continuous and ongoing goal, like last year’s. I already failed at this goal this morning. Sigh.
5. Exercise once a week. I know this sounds like so little, but I do almost nothing right now. I need to practice what I preach and eat well, sleep more, and exercise.
So there you go. My goals. Feel free to badger me about them. It’ll keep me honest.
Please tell me in the comments about one or more of your goals. What are you hoping to achieve this year? Let’s hold each other accountable so we don’t give up!
PS – Did you know that I have a private Facebook group for moms? It’s for parenting and mental health support. It’s not a place for serious therapy, but it IS a place for advice, commiseration, laughs, and kindness.
If you’re interested in joining, friend me and then message me, and I will add you. (We have to be FB friends for me to add you to a secret group. You can unfriend me after you’re in the group if you want. I totally understand if you like only having FB friends you know in real life, and won’t be offended at all!)